The Mulam is an ethnic minority that lives in Guangxi Province, mainly in Luocheng Mulao Autonomous County in the Guangxi Zhuang Autonomous Region. They practice monogamous as their marriage system. Actually the marriages of the young are traditionally arranged by elders when children were 12 or 13 after a bride price was paid. And there is a priority for marriage between a boy and his cousin. Unlike some conservative ethnic groups, divorce and remarriage are easy to arrange for Mulam.
The young people of a village will court the girls of other one by means of singing. So this is called “zuopo”, while the young people are singing, the girls will be answering equally. That is to say, some will raise the questions to others in the way of singing, first for some personal details, then more intimate questions. At first all people will sing in group, and then each couple will sing alone.
There are some unique traditions for this ethnic group. For example, most grooms move with the bride’s family after wedding. The bride remains to live with her family until their first child was born. The couple is free to join other young people in singing, flirting and courting at every festival. If it is necessary for the bride to live with the groom’s family, the groom has to live first with the bride’s family for three days before the new couple is allowed to move into the groom’s family.
From immemorial time, shoes have been considered a famous keepsake for lovers, such as Maonan ethnic minority. And there is another marital custom for shoes for Mulao ethnic group, which is “Three pairs of wedding shoes”. For the wedding of Mulam, the bride is asked to wear three pairs of new wedding shoes one by one. And the occasions of shoes are important. On the morning of wedding day, the bride should wear the first pair in her boudoir, then leaves for the groom’s house accompanied by her sisters and friends. At the arrival of the village of the groom, the bridal procession will stopped to wait for the bride to change for the second pair of shoes. At the gate of the groom’s house, it is time for the bride to put on the third pair. It is said that by doing this, the bride is proved to be pure and kind.